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yang hari ini mencintai sepi
mungkin akan menjadi pecandu keramaian, nanti

yang kemarin terluka
mungkin malah akan menorehkan luka
hari ini

pagi-siang-sore-malam

secepat waktu bergulir,
secepat manusia berubah

17412
statis.

Apakah saya?

Pada dasarnya manusia tidaklah mengenal dirinya sendiri, mungkin itu sebabnya banyak sekali tes-tes kepribadian yang mengungkapkan bagaimana cara-cara berpikir umum yang biasanya dilakukan oleh sebuah tipe kepribadian tertentu. Begitu pula saya. Karena udah lama juga ga ikut tes kepribadian, maka, saya pun mencoba kuis ini yang kemudian hasilnya sebagai berikut:

Your iPersonic Type: The Analytical Thinker

Analytical Thinkers like you are reserved, quiet persons. You like to get to the bottom of things - curiosity is one of your strongest motives. You want to know what holds the world together deep down inside. You do not really need much more to be happy because you are a modest person. Many mathematicians, philosophers and scientists belong to your type. Analytical Thinkers loathe contradictions and illogicalness; with your sharp intellect, you quickly and comprehensively grasp patterns, principles and structures. You are particularly interested in the fundamental nature of things and theoretical findings; for you, it is not necessarily a question of translating these into practical acts or in sharing your considerations with others. Analytical Thinkers like to work alone; your ability to concentrate is more marked than that of all other personality types. You are open for and interested in new information.

Analytical Thinkers have little interest in everyday concerns - you are always a little like an “absent-minded professor” whose home and workplace are chaotic and who only concerns himself with banalities such as bodily needs when it becomes absolutely unavoidable. The acknowledgement of your work by others does not play a great role for you; in general, you are quite independent of social relationships and very self-reliant. You therefore often give others the impression that you are arrogant or snobby - especially because you do not hesitate to speak your mind with your often harsh (even if justified) criticism and your imperturbable self-confidence. Incompetent contemporaries do not have it easy with you. But whoever succeeds in winning your respect and interest has a witty and very intelligent person to talk to. A partner who amazes one with his excellent powers of observation and his very dry humour.

As an Analytical Thinker you are one of the introverted personality types. You are not particularly suited for dealing with others, working as a part of a team and be in the position of “continuous exchange“, you would much rather work alone, and dwell on your thoughts undisturbed. You usually put a critical distance between yourself and others that enables you to be the keen and incorrupt observer of life. This distance can be truly bridged by only very few other people. That is probably caused by the fact that you are not all that interested to share your thoughts with others. Generally it is sufficient for you to have clarified a matter for yourself or that you have understood something; the continuous in your eyes mostly superficial chatter of the people around you becomes rather annoying.

You prefer to work independently and appreciate having a lot of time and quiet in order to concentrate on the really important things: Structuring ideas, comprehending complex causalities, understanding of the universe, its rules and the logical analysis of systems. You absorb new information like a sponge and your memory is legendary. Once you have learned something, you’ll never forget it - unless you consider it to be irrelevant for some reason and decide that it seems to be better purging it from your data storage.

Creative problem solving and jumping out of your paradigm to development daring future visions are a part of your greatest strength. At the same time you are the most acute and rational critic of your own ideas, each one of them will be rigorously examined and discarded at the smallest indication of contradictions or lack of logic. You usually leave the implementation to others and prefer to turn to new theoretical reflections. Especially in case of self employment (in your case a real possibility) it is important to surround yourself with hands-on oriented and dependable employees who make sure that your incredible suggestions for solutions become reality while you return to immersing yourself in your intellectual world. 

Mudah-mudahan yang baik-baik bener dan yang buruk-buruk (emang ada?) ga bener. Amin. 

-ngelaba saat dikerjain tugas-

Styles of Loving

This post is kinda weird (yet educating, ha!). I found this when i'm searching some literature for source of my paper about happiness. The book's table of contents kinda interesting and i see a chapter about Love and Marriage. Well, i dunno whether i was an 'essentialist' or just my age *sigh*, i am interested with this two paragraph.

The Canadian sociologist J.A. Lee claimed that different couples have different styles of loving. There are three primary love styles, which he termed Eros, Storge and Ludus. The Erotic style of love is based on immediate physical attraction, a fascination with beauty, sensuality, and good rapport between the two individuals involved. In contrast, Storge is a rather unexciting and undramatic love style. It involves affection and companionship, but it relatively devoid of passion. The third primary love style, Ludus, derives its name from the Latin word for “play”. As that implies, Ludic lovers are hedonistic and unwilling to enter into long-term commitments. 

J. A. Lee did not stop at the three primary love styles just described. He went on to identify three additional love styles that represent blends of the primary love styles. Eros and Storge in combination produce Agape, which is dutiful and altruistic form of love in which the lover expects little in return. Storge and Ludus together make Pragma, which is love style for the realistic and practical lover who actively seeks for a compatible partner. Finally, and most excitingly, there is Mania, which combines elements of Ludus and Eros. This love style is characterized by great emotional intensity in the form of obsession and jealousy. (Eysenck, dkk., 1994: 48)

Do you find this is interesting just like i am? :P

 So, which type are you?

Bibliography
Eyseck, Hans J. 1994. Happines: Facts and Myth. Sussex: Psychology Press.